About a year ago, I turned 50. I plan to live to at least 100 years of age. That means I’m halfway done! I’ve learned a lot in my first 50 years. Here are 10 simple, but powerful lessons that I’ll carry with me into the next 50 years. I know they’ll serve me well.
1. Notice how what you do, makes you feel. When you do what feels good, generally life gets good. For example, it feels good to be honest, kind, and to work hard. Singing and dancing feels good too! Let this powerful, internal guiding system teach you how to live your life well.
2. The most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself. It determines the strength of all others. Make it beautiful and everything else in your world becomes beautiful too.
3. A huge part of life is beyond your control. When you try to control people or life, you disconnect from both. Change what you can. Accept what you can’t. This is essential for freedom and joy.
4. Nature nurtures your soul like few other things can. It’s is where you find true peace and real beauty. It is where you heal, connect deeply to life and to what it means to be alive. Spend time in nature each day!
5. Forgiveness is central to happiness and well-being. When you learn to forgive often and always you don’t have to carry around anger, resentments, sadness or pain. Carry with you a belief that says “people do their best”. Fears, hurts and unmet childhood needs are just some of the reasons people don’t do better. When you have compassion for these things, forgiveness comes easy.
6. I don’t know of one single program, teacher or guru devoted to spirituality or self-development that doesn’t preach gratitude. I believe, however, to truly master gratitude, you must become grateful for it all. It means being thankful for the joy and the laughter, but also for the heartache and the tears. It is the hills and the valleys, the sunshine and the rain that sculpt us into the incredibly brave and strong human beings that we are. It is all of life’s complexities that make each moment special and allows us to learn or gain something from every situation life throws our way.
7. When you judge others (or yourself) you close your heart, create distance and build walls. Humans were never meant to be perfect. Instead, observe and learn from everyone, practice compassion, look for the good in all, and most important, do your best to accept each person just as they are. That’s what real love looks like.
8. Great experiences and great accomplishments involve great risk and great fear. Unmet fears paralyze your life. Conquer your fears (especially the big ones!) and a happier life is yours for the taking.
9. There is no rewind button on life. You can learn from yesterday, but you can’t get yesterday back. This day, this minute, this second is all you have and life doesn’t go on forever. Do your best to live your life well the first time around!
10. Leo Buscaglia said “Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.” Nothing – absolutely nothing – beats love!!! It is the most important thing you’ll ever do, the most prized possession you’ll ever have, and the most significant legacy you can ever leave. It makes your darkest days less dark and your sunniest days more brilliant. Love always makes life more beautiful. Define your life with love!
This blog post was written by Liz Pearson. Catch Liz at momondays momondays Toronto, ON on 06/23/2014! Get your advance tickets here: Buy Tickets
Liz is a Registered Dietitian, Bestselling Author and Professional Speaker. She has a passion for peanut butter sandwiches, an undying love for chocolate and also loves to dance! She’s written four books and her latest book “Broccoli, Love & Dark Chocolate (because food, love & life should be delicious!) is hitting bookstore shelves in July 2014. For more about Liz, visit http://www.lizpearson.com.